• Firebase Erksine

    One of the most powerful sections in Focusing Emptiness is the chapter about firebase Erskine. This is the story about a remote artillery support base during the Vietnam war. But it didn't take up much room in my book until late one evening, quite by accident, I stumbled across a website devoted to the survivors of those who died there.


    It was especially the postings of the children of those who died that  hit me the hardest. Those postings called to me to try harder,  to write something better, to write something more. But Focusing  Emptiness wasn’t a book about Vietnam. It was about trauma, and  awareness, and how our defenses can fool us into making poor  decisions. And then something occurred to me, something about  a theory I knew of  concerning the children of trauma; that they these  children might be more vulnerable to traumatic situations later in life,  that they might be more prone to bouts of PTSD. But if anything, it seemed to me that my childhood had erected unseen walls that helped  to block out the harsh realities of life. Indeed, I may have  been less vulnerable. And I was never haunted by the ghosts of  Erskine the way others were. But I did not escape entirely.


    It wasn’t  until I began writing about Erskine that I became aware of just how far my defenses had gone to protect me. I faintly remember Top Johnston, for instance, the Sergeant with me there at first, calling me over to the artillery pit where the whole fiasco on that hill began. Making my way through the blackened rubble the fires had left, I was soon standing at the pit’s edge, looking down through the smoldering streams of smoke rising up into the humid jungle air. But then…that’s all….that’s where my memory ends. I have no recollection of what I saw. I know what was down there because I remember the Top describing it. It was the burned and fragmented bodies of those who were engulfed by the fire and explosions that had taken the entire hill before we arrived. But I don’t remember seeing any of it. It was simply gone.


    Our defensive structures are often hidden from us.  We only see the results of their action. We find ourselves in conflict withloved ones for reasons we don’t understand, we make decisions we look back on later and wonder what possessed us, we alter our experiences, sometimes allowing them to quietly slip into our unconscious. But once constructed, our defense mechanisms area never really gone. They are still there, underground, influencing our perceptions, molding our decisions, interacting with the world from beneath the surface of what we think we know.

    The A Shau Valley 1


  • Glimpse into the Past: Excerpt from Focusing Emptiness


    I was six months oldwhen my birth father stepped

    out and my stepfather stepped in. He was a mean drunk. He hit
    people. Mostly he hit my mother, and maybe that’s where my
    battle with him began. I don’t know for sure if that’s where it started.
    I have no memory of its beginning. It seemed as if we were always at war.
    Around age seven or eight I was formally introduced to the
    larger family drama by way of my mother’s sister, my Aunt Patty, who
    took me aside one evening to show me how to call the police.


    “You’re too young to be saddled with this,” she said, “but
    you’re the oldest and you need to do it. If you don’t, I’m afraid your
    stepfather might kill your mother one day.”


    She wasn’t far off. He did almost kill my mother on more than
    one occasion. The earliest I remember was of him breaking a whiskey
    bottle over her head during one of their fights. I was curled up in a
    ball in my room upstairs, listening to the battle below. It was a war
    zone down there—glass breaking, furniture crashing. Despite my
    brothers and sisters nearby in their own rooms, I felt alone upstairs,
    my mother’s appointed caretaker, tasked with saving her.


    On several occasions, I managed to make my way down the
    flight of stairs leading to the phone and call the police without being
    seen by my stepfather, then to stay out of sight until they arrived. But
    the thought that my mother’s life rested with me alone brought a
    feeling of sick emptiness that would often cause me to shake violently.
    Images of my mother being killed and fears of my getting something
    wrong, of not being around when she needed me, were unbearable.
    Upstairs in my room at night, I would often feel a tangled knot in my
    stomach. Then came the images before I’d even fallen asleep, of hooded
    phantoms. Pulling the covers over my head, I would wedge myself down low underneath my covers
    and scream for help. 


    Me with my childhood dog.

  • How to read the book

    There were times, in the writing of Focusing, that my soul was shaken to its core, and I would become so tightly embraced by the tone and timbre of it all that I would find myself unable to fight back the tears during its writing. And when my work was done, and I would look down at what was there on the page, it often seemed as if some else had written it. I knew during these times that the story should not be interrupted, but should be told precisely as dictated. Therefore, the narrative its self  contains no jargon or analysis. It requires no background, or even interest, in the meditations of psychology. The book's analytical framework is entirely contained within the Epilogue, and a reader interested in this, should wait until the story is read, then look back in the light of this framework and reconsider what was read. My hope and wish for the reader interested in psychology is not so much that my book provides new academic insights, but that its overall effect will help to illuminate the shadowed corners of the reader's own life story. 

    Northern Lights

                  Photo Credit: http://www.irishcentral.com/culture/travel/irish-man-captures-stunning-time-lapse-video-of-the-northern-lights-video

  • Voice of the Lost Child

    In part, Focusing Emptiness is about the decisions we make, and specifically, the way our defenses can influence these decisions, often affecting the direction our life takes. Think about being in an abusive relationship, for instance, or maybe being in a job you hate and which seems out of character for you. Then you ask yourself how you got where you are. Maybe if you are old enough, like me, you can look back and see a pattern in your decisions, and wonder now how you could have possibly made them. That’s part of what I’m talking about in the book.

    One of the earliest life-changing decisions I made was at sixteen, during the height of the Vietnam War, when I decided to enlist in the Marine Corps. That isn’t to say that everyone who joins the Marine Corps is doing so because they are influenced by some trauma- induced defensive structure. But for me, joining the Marine Corps was completely out of character. I had never aspired to be a Marine. It was never something I had wanted to do.

    And when I look back and ask myself now about  what could have possibly motivated me to make that decision, I can see precisely the kinds of archetypal  fantasy structures at work that I talk about in Focusing Emptiness. I can still hear the small voice inside me at  that time, calling to me, telling me that something wasn’t quite right about what I was doing. This was the voice from the lost child.

    You may have heard your own lost child somewhere along the way. It’s comes as a faint intuition, perhaps more a feeling than a sound. It’s one of those things we tend to brush aside, tend to rationalize away. It calls out, asking that you turn toward it… especially during those times when the your defenses are most activated.  It reaches up through the veil of the unconscious, trying to be found...trying to be heard.
    As long as this voice goes un-heard, the un-seen hand of one’s defenses will continue to shape one’s  decisions, appearing for all the world as “fate.”